G-DYPEELZW7C 1572007609577068 Ether and the Space Between Things - A Lone Traveler's Guide to the Divine

Episode 21

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25th Oct 2022

Ether and the Space Between Things

Summary 

Welcome dreamers, seekers, empaths, and healers! My name is Amanda Lux of the Elevation Hive school and community for energy medicine and dreamwork. In this podcast, I share teachings, musings, poems, songs, and interviews with other amazing humans who walk the healer's path. 

In this episode 

Join myself and Kim Pinckley for a candid, hilarious, deep and personal conversation about the Ether Element and the space between things.

In this episode:

  • I share about my recent break from the podcast
  • I also share about the transitioning of the Hive Membership
  • Kim shares about her amazing North Door retreat coming up in January of 2023
  • We both explore the polarity perspectives and practices related to death, grief, and the importance of taking space.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Go to Elevationhive.com to learn more about upcoming polarity therapy classes

Thank you for listening, sharing, reviewing and sending me your dreams! 

I love to read them. 


Songs used in this episode:


Alone/All One theme song written and performed by Amanda Lux

Music from Uppbeat:

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https://uppbeat.io/t/vens-adams/i-can-hear-the-ocean

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Transcript
Kim Pinckley:

If you think about our culture and you think about

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our resistance to death typically.

Kim Pinckley:

, we have a little, you know, we have fear of death in our culture and at

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that is, I would say at the root of the fear of pausing in our lives.

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Like the same idea of slowing down, stopping being, still, being with

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the nothingness, doing the nothing like, I think that that's a little bit

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intimidating to many of us in our world.

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Like what happens if we're just still quiet and what.

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Will we have to hear

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?

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teacher, co-teacher of Polarity therapy, Kim Pinkley, and I'm so excited to

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have this conversation with Kim.

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It was inspired by multiple conversations we've had and just, it's also just

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a conversation that's in the field.

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Where the podcast has been, which is to say it's been on pause.

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So , we're gonna be talking about ether and the space between things today and

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what that means in the polarity paradigm, and also what that means just in life,

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and how we probably all use a little more ether, a little more space than we're

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getting so I wanna invite you, Kim, to introduce yourself and maybe a little bit

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about your work and the different facets of healing work that you have studied,

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and how these different perspectives have contributed to your journey with

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the ether and to your healer's journey.

Kim Pinckley:

So good to be with you again.

Kim Pinckley:

, thank you for inviting me to talk about this like really special

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subject that I feel doesn't get as much attention in our culture as I.

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I think we could use, more of this in our culture, this ether element.

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And just to give a little peace about who I am.

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, I have been studying the healing arts I say for 25 years, but really

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for as long as I can remember, I've been interested in how.

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to process my life in a better way.

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And I took the time to go and learn , polarity therapy and

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cranial sacral therapy and.

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Both of these modalities are a little bit of a hero's journey on their own

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to learn them because you get to go through your own healing process as you

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learn the teachings, as you experience the work, and this moment with you is

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very interesting to me because we're both kind of in a pause place in our,

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in our journey and being able to stop and just take a minute and digest.

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And rest with it and be able to talk with each other around.

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It just sounds like, you know, sounds so magical, So healing.

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So anyway, , I again, started this journey many, many, many moons ago, and I not

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only do this work in an office, I'm a practitioner, but I also share this work.

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I teach it to other people to learn how.

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For them to learn how to be practitioners and to take this

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into their own lives as well.

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I've had the great fortune of studying with a teacher , who walked with a

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medicine man from the Cree tradition and experience , these teachings

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through that filter as well, through this beautiful filter of how.

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ether and all of the elements show up in nature, and then in

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relation to your life as well.

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So just, you know, that's my daily day is to be in my office tuning

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into people and to their process and.

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Them find resolution to challenge and to consistently be related to

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how these teachings show up in nature and in my own life as a seeker.

Kim Pinckley:

Mm.

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I

Amanda Lux:

love that.

Amanda Lux:

, we are here in the middle of teaching a polarity therapy course

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on the elements and embodying the elements and the chakras, that's

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why you flew here from Arizona and.

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And we're doing our third round of teaching here together

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in the Pacific Northwest

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on my family's land.

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And we're looking out over the water and because that's the context, I

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also wanted to invite you to just.

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, , just a little bit about what polarity is to you.

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Like what is polarity, what are the elements,

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What is ether even?

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Right?

Kim Pinckley:

Hmm.

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That's one of my favorite questions, ? And I always, every single time I'm

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asked, I stumble on it because it's so.

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Dimensional this work and to just try and bring it down to

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a little bit of a nutshell.

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This polarity therapy is a very holistic healthcare system that relates to all

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of our bodies, our mental, emotional, physical, energetic, structural

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bodies tuning into the places where energy is not circulating optimally.

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Making relationship to those places, tuning that energy so that it can

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find its way into circulation and it can animate these bodies in a way,

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We can be fully expressed emotionally and physically and mentally out in our worlds.

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And one of the ways that we.

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With this energy is through the chakra system, and the five chakras

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are related to the five elements, and these elements would be ether

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and air and fire and water and earth.

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And each of these elements that are related to these chakras, they carry

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different qualities and they govern different parts of our lives and our

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bodies and different systems in our bodies, and they work independently and

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together consistently trying to create and sustain a balance that helps us

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be in that place of full expression.

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That's be.

Amanda Lux:

and in case you listening are like, Wait a minute, I thought there were

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seven chakras, , or more than you are.

Amanda Lux:

Correct.

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There are, there are many more energy centers in our body than than these five,

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but the five PR primary physical chakras each relate to one of the five element.

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And Ether is related to the throat chakra and that is considered the

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gateway to the upper energy centers.

Kim Pinckley:

So just listening to you, if I were to riff off of that for

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a minute, ether is the place, the transformer between spirit and form, like

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as source energy comes in through the crown chakra into our chakric system.

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Ether is that gateway.

Kim Pinckley:

I love when you say gateway.

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It's one of my favorite words, and I think about etheric energy as

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the spark or the initiation or the invocation or invitation from Spirit.

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That would inspire us to go out into the world and become expressed

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or become manifest to make change, to do something, to honor spirit,

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ultimately, to go out and be in this world in a way that serves ourselves,

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our brothers and sisters, that brings something of source energy to fruition.

Kim Pinckley:

. Amanda Lux: How's that?

Kim Pinckley:

I think that's perfect.

Kim Pinckley:

We're discussing ether and the space between things and how, you know, I guess

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this is a good moment to bring in sort of the general cultural relationship that

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we have to space and to the pause between moments, between movements of our life.

Kim Pinckley:

There isn't a lot of honoring of the transitions or of the beginnings before.

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The beginnings, even what's in the field before you embark on a new thing, right?

Kim Pinckley:

That's the ether what's in the field of your life, of your mind, of your

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spirit, before you begin to create something there's not a lot of

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ceremony in general, in most modern culture, , that honoring of that.

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Initial spark and ether is sort of that, the hoop of the wheel, right?

Kim Pinckley:

So it also embodies the the final ending as well when, when something goes all the

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way through from the ether to the air, to the fire, to the water, to the earth, and

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finally is in physical form, and then it changes again and goes back to the ether.

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And that's our life cycle.

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And that's the life cycle of every creation.

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And.

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What we teach in polarity is that energy cannot be created or destroyed, right?

Kim Pinckley:

That's a Einstein quote, I believe.

Kim Pinckley:

Um, it's always transforming, so as soon as something has its full expression and

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is comes to the end of its expression, it, it just changes form, and that's

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what we do in our lives as well.

Kim Pinckley:

How do we honor the beginning and the end?

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And even more interestingly to me in the moment is how do we honor the space

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between the beginning and the end?

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? How do we honor that etheric moment where we are between things where

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we're not what we were and we're not yet what we're becoming, where we

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haven't yet had the new idea, but we've let go of something that was.

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What?

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What do we do in that place when we're sort of free falling or we're

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just suspended and we're not moving at all and there's just nothing.

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I have a thought about that.

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. I bet you do.

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we listen.

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Mm-hmm.

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, it's a quality of Ether is about listening, and it's like, I'll

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tell you where this brought me.

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It brought me to, again, a teaching that came from one of my teachers, Heather

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Principe, and she speaks about the moment of creation when we're talking about a

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human being coming into creation, talking about when the sperm and the egg meet,

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and that moment where in the ethers our.

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Hear that spark of creation that happens and we hear that as our song.

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Our song is being played, and we have that choice to come and follow

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our song and come into creation and we, you know, you have to be

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listening if you wanna hear your song.

Kim Pinckley:

Right.

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And I just kind of like think about, we were just talking too, you're talking

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about this evolutionary process.

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An evolutionary process, how there's the begin the space before everything begins.

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The space where if you're quiet and you're still, and you hear your song,

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you can come in and then you come in and you do this whole thing and you, you

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do this thing called a life a lifetime.

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And then at the end of your life, there's a stillness that comes too, where

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you're gonna hear your call back to.

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and it is very much like this space between like, okay, we're alive as

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a human being, and then there's this liminal space, and then we have this

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transformational process called death where we then move into a different

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form and we have all of the experiences that came through in this lifetime.

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So we're.

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We, we have a different frequency than when we came in as a thought.

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You know, I speak that and I'm not sure if that's true, but I

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have a thought that that's true.

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We've just gone through something, a transformational piece, picked up

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some things, let go of some things.

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And you know, it's a kind of an interesting thing.

Kim Pinckley:

If you think about our culture and you think about our

Kim Pinckley:

resistance to death typically.

Kim Pinckley:

, we have a little, you know, we have fear of death in our culture and at

Kim Pinckley:

that is, I would say at the root of the fear of pausing in our lives.

Kim Pinckley:

Like the same idea of slowing down, stopping being, still, being with

Kim Pinckley:

the nothingness, doing the nothing like, I think that that's a little bit

Kim Pinckley:

intimidating to many of us in our world.

Kim Pinckley:

Like what happens if we're just still quiet and.

Kim Pinckley:

what Will we have to hear

Kim Pinckley:

? Amanda Lux: Right.

Kim Pinckley:

Good point.

Kim Pinckley:

, I love so much that you brought in the life cycle in polarity when we talk about

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either when we teach about either as an element, as an entity, as a quality,

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as a way Ether has both a positive and negative pull as all of the elements do,

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as everything does, and in the positive pull of Ether is that blissful, euphoric

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experience of oneness with everything and in the negative pull of Ether is grief.

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and I think grief is something that is becoming a lot more

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talked about in our culture.

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I think it hasn't been talked about, there hasn't been space for

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it for a really, really long time.

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And that as we consider how we relate to death or how we relate to pausing

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between things to sit and take them in.

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Then oftentimes we have to meet grief.

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, you know, and it's right there next to the euphoric experience of oneness.

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They're right next to each other.

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They're not, the opposite poles are are like on a circle where the one end

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meets the other all the way around.

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They're not far.

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And so it's an interesting non-linear journey and.

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I don't know.

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I have, I have a lot of thoughts about that, about grief, but I, I'm

Kim Pinckley:

gonna pass it back to you and just see what you, what you have to say, Kim.

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Well, I'll tell you what kind of came to me is

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that it's, it's a thought that just coming here and incarnating

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carries a certain amount of grief.

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As we come into a more dense form and we separate, if you wanna say that word, it

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doesn't feel right, but whatever level of separation we have from Source Energy, as

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we come and become more in a human body, in a human form, and we meet the draws

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and the the density of this world and that there's such a deep, longing to go back

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to source, to kind of release ourselves from the heaviness of this place.

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. Really, you get to feel the oneness or you will feel the longing.

Kim Pinckley:

Right.

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And I think too about substances in our world and I think about

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how alcohol and drugs, anything that brings us to a, a high.

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In some way, shape, or form are a way of trying to reconnect to source energy too,

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to like be in the ethers, to be higher, to be shedding the heaviness of this world.

Kim Pinckley:

And I think that this is, again, one of those things where if we do take these

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pauses, if we do take these places of the space in between, if we do give

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ourselves moments and even days, Of time to just be able to allow ourselves to

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have our E it opens up the possibility to make relationship to these two poles.

Kim Pinckley:

Hmm.

Amanda Lux:

Beautiful.

Amanda Lux:

Right.

Amanda Lux:

I do wanna interject here and just give a little plug for the fact that

Amanda Lux:

you're offering a retreat in January, 2023, and I would wanna invite you to

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just speak to, in case you listening are like coming to this before that

Amanda Lux:

date and you might be interested, but also just as a mind blowing, you

Amanda Lux:

know, little invitation to consider this in your life in whatever form.

Amanda Lux:

So, speak about your retreat.

Kim Pinckley:

I would love to speak about my retreat and I wanna just talk

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to you and tell you a small story here of how, where this retreat came to me and.

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, It was in a vision quest.

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I actually spent four days out on the land alone with nothing

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to do, no reading, no writing, no food, no water, just me, right?

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Doing this thing that we're talking about, taking space from

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the craziness of my life, from the busyness of my life to make relation.

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And I do regularly take four days of silence.

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I don't do it to the extent of no food.

Kim Pinckley:

And, you know, this is, this was a held ceremony with my teacher

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, and for me, what came up was giving

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the time after I've completed something.

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to honor it, to not just jump onto the very next thing.

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Cuz usually I'll be doing that before the last thing's over.

Kim Pinckley:

You know, I'm already on the next thing and so that's normal.

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Like in our culture, I don't know if it's normal to nature, but I would say that

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we all have a little bit of a challenge of just pausing after, you know, you can

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do this from your dinner, you can pause after eating dinner and allow yourself

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five minutes to just be with the meal.

Kim Pinckley:

You just.

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And you can be in a space of blessing the nourishment that has

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just come through your system.

Kim Pinckley:

This is a way to, a simple way to make relation to your e in

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your, your etheric energy in your life, or to cultivate it more.

Kim Pinckley:

And so back to my vision quest as I was on the land, I.

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Had this thought come through about holding a retreat,

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which is something that I do.

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I, I love holding retreats.

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This retreat was inspired by taking space though.

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And so in the native world, they talk about the four directions and the.

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How they relate to the four seasons too.

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And so if you take this northern door, which would also be the winter, and

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you think about what happens in nature during the northern door and everything

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goes down, there's hibernation.

Kim Pinckley:

We get still, we go and get resourced.

Kim Pinckley:

We take naps.

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We should like, You know, that's a thought, right?

Kim Pinckley:

But nature, that's what happens is that there's not a lot of movement.

Kim Pinckley:

We're not doing anything new.

Kim Pinckley:

We're relaxing.

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We're, we're resting.

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We're taking the space between the fall and the spring.

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And the spring is the place of the new, But in the winter months, it's

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the place of the non-doing, just being.

Kim Pinckley:

If you're a seed, you're just waiting underground to crack.

Kim Pinckley:

You're not doing.

Kim Pinckley:

And so I thought to myself, you know, what about holding a retreat

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where the invitation is to just come and be in that space with others?

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Be in this space of unplugging, of not needing to respond to your

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phone or to your boss, or to your spouse, or your children or your

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partner, and just being and taking.

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of yourself, Like eating what feels right, doing what feels right, and most like, I

Kim Pinckley:

don't know if this is most importantly, but I feel like it's something that,

Kim Pinckley:

you know, again, just doesn't get its space in our world, especially as adults.

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I wanted to invite play, and I wanted to.

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, just say, Let's laugh.

Kim Pinckley:

Like, you know, we do all this work on ourselves.

Kim Pinckley:

We go inward.

Kim Pinckley:

We are doing the hero's journey.

Kim Pinckley:

We're tuning into the places that need healing and the things that

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need to get met in our lives.

Kim Pinckley:

Well, what is it like to just sit around and maybe play a game and laugh with

Kim Pinckley:

each other and you know, go to bed as early or as late as you want, and really

Kim Pinckley:

just tuning into you the being of.

Kim Pinckley:

Hmm.

Kim Pinckley:

I love that.

Amanda Lux:

So just to say, Coming out of a pause for the podcast itself, , , I

Amanda Lux:

didn't know how long the pause would need to be, but I knew I needed a

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little break and I had an idea that I would start at the beginning of fall,

Amanda Lux:

but we had a really long summer here in the Pacific Northwest and fall.

Amanda Lux:

Really, just started . And that's when I was like, Oh, it's time.

Amanda Lux:

It's time to pick this up again.

Amanda Lux:

I was hearing the, the soul of the podcast speak to me and suddenly I was

Amanda Lux:

inspired, but I kept thinking throughout this, few months that has gone by

Amanda Lux:

where I have not put out an episode.

Amanda Lux:

, what will happen if I take a break?

Amanda Lux:

Will it die?

Amanda Lux:

Will it go away?

Amanda Lux:

Will it be hard to pick it back up?

Amanda Lux:

What will happen if I step away?

Amanda Lux:

What will happen to me?

Amanda Lux:

What will happen to the podcast?

Amanda Lux:

Will it stick around?

Amanda Lux:

Will the spirit of this creative thing, you know, continue to choose

Amanda Lux:

me to move through ? I wasn't really totally sure, but I just knew I

Amanda Lux:

had to honor my own need for space.

Amanda Lux:

Yeah, so I did, you know, and part of that came through my dreams too.

Amanda Lux:

I just heard it in my dreams.

Amanda Lux:

It was time to close the computer.

Amanda Lux:

It was time to reengage in my teaching in a more in-person way.

Amanda Lux:

It was time to start running outside more and just doing some things

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differently than I was doing them.

Amanda Lux:

And in addition to pausing the podcast I also heard that it was time

Amanda Lux:

to transition the membership and my entire platform for the Elevation.

Amanda Lux:

Hive Dreamwork community with its own app and all of these courses and

Amanda Lux:

forums that I had developed and poured myself into for the last two years, it

Amanda Lux:

suddenly was telling me that it was time.

Amanda Lux:

So there's the flush of the toilet

Amanda Lux:

. Kim Pinckley: That's so on point.

Amanda Lux:

I don't

Amanda Lux:

know if the mic picked that up, but right as I said that

Amanda Lux:

suddenly there was this flushing of a toilet in the in the background.

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From who knows where, The proverbial toilet just got flushed, so I flushed

Amanda Lux:

it all down the toilet and everything I made, everything I created, I pulled

Amanda Lux:

the plug, you know, and I said goodbye.

Amanda Lux:

And it was one of the most like intense grieving processes.

Amanda Lux:

It's been really, really sad because to me, providing a space

Amanda Lux:

for people to share their dreams.

Amanda Lux:

and come together regularly to create art from their dreams and to learn

Amanda Lux:

about dream work and energy medicine, you know, from anywhere in the world

Amanda Lux:

has always been really important to me.

Amanda Lux:

It's for a very long time, it's been my dream, but I was hearing

Amanda Lux:

that it was time to take a pause.

Amanda Lux:

It needed to transition, and I could have resisted that very easily.

Amanda Lux:

I could have said, No, I've built this thing.

Amanda Lux:

I wanna keep it going.

Amanda Lux:

, but I just had to honor the movement of the, soul of this project and this thing.

Amanda Lux:

And so in the midst of the pause of the podcast, I also closed down the

Amanda Lux:

membership and I let it transition into something new, They say that when

Amanda Lux:

someone dies, there's this window of time,

Amanda Lux:

? Where it's not time to get

Amanda Lux:

? And then finally you get rid of the body, but the soul's doing its work.

Amanda Lux:

In many, many cultures throughout history, there are sacred processes to hold that

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space for those who are transition.

Amanda Lux:

, maybe not so much in this culture now, currently in this day and age, but

Amanda Lux:

some of those are being remembered and.

Amanda Lux:

Reenacted rejuvenated brought back, thankfully, , respectfully.

Amanda Lux:

And, , we're starting to get more consciousness , we're

Amanda Lux:

starting to learn that babies have feelings when they're born.

Amanda Lux:

They can actually feel pain

Amanda Lux:

you know, we, they didn't even know, you know, at that point there wasn't

Amanda Lux:

the consciousness that babies feel things and that maybe we feel things

Amanda Lux:

after , we go and leave this body, you know, maybe it's not in the physical.

Amanda Lux:

We're feeling them in different ways.

Amanda Lux:

There's different reverberations the energy goes through and maybe it's not

Amanda Lux:

always the same, but there are processes.

Amanda Lux:

So I feel like I'm in that place with the hive.

Amanda Lux:

It.

Amanda Lux:

, I'm honoring the process of the death of that thing that was, and I'm listening,

Amanda Lux:

you know, I'm really listening.

Amanda Lux:

How does it want to be reborn?

Amanda Lux:

How does it want to take new form and what is the course of its carmic

Amanda Lux:

journey or whatever it is, you know, that's that, that creative spark.

Amanda Lux:

How does it wanna keep.

Amanda Lux:

And how can I foster that?

Amanda Lux:

How can I be of service to that?

Amanda Lux:

But more importantly than even asking those questions, there's the, just

Amanda Lux:

sitting with it, being gone and feeling the hole where that place was, where

Amanda Lux:

I used to have a place to share dreams and to read others' dreams every morning

Amanda Lux:

when I woke up and that place is gone.

Amanda Lux:

And rather than filling it with something, I've really been sitting

Amanda Lux:

with that, sitting with my own dreams in the silence of my morning and

Amanda Lux:

sitting with the emptiness of not having others to share them with and

Amanda Lux:

honoring the grief and that hole, , that place was filled up with beauty and

Amanda Lux:

connection and, and it isn't now you.

Amanda Lux:

And there have been moments where I could, touch it and I could say,

Amanda Lux:

Ugh, it hurts . It really hurts.

Amanda Lux:

And then, but then I don't have to label it that because in the

Amanda Lux:

next moment it's joyful because I'm free to do other things.

Amanda Lux:

That energy is still moving through me.

Amanda Lux:

It's just moving in different directions.

Amanda Lux:

and I can also be in that quiet stillness and just be curious with it,

Amanda Lux:

you know, and observe the hole that that place used to fill up for me.

Amanda Lux:

And I know that everything is in a constant state of

Amanda Lux:

transformation, so it's not over.

Amanda Lux:

And I certainly know that my mission of being of service on the planet,

Amanda Lux:

Bringing people's dreams and awareness around energy and sharing these sacred

Amanda Lux:

practices and, , ways of living and perceiving are, they're not going away.

Amanda Lux:

And I'll keep doing that, but I don't know yet what it'll look like.

Amanda Lux:

So I love that you're doing that retreat, Kim, and that I appreciate you coming

Amanda Lux:

onto the podcast and helping me initiate this pick it back up because I heard in

Amanda Lux:

the quiet space between what was and what hasn't yet become that new thing.

Amanda Lux:

I heard that it was time to talk to this, to like, to give this voice , to inspire.

Amanda Lux:

Maybe for the listeners out there who are listening, who are listening to

Amanda Lux:

their own energy, who are listening to our collective energies to inspire that

Amanda Lux:

appreciation for the space between things.

Kim Pinckley:

Oh, my , oh my goodness.

Kim Pinckley:

I really just have to take a minute and really honor that whole piece.

Kim Pinckley:

There's something about.

Kim Pinckley:

, just where you started with this, like the, the little

Kim Pinckley:

fears, like what will it be?

Kim Pinckley:

What will I be, will spirit still talk to me in the same way?

Kim Pinckley:

Is it gonna come through if I let this go?

Kim Pinckley:

And, you know, I, I frequently relate ether to this idea

Kim Pinckley:

of floating in space and to.

Kim Pinckley:

Vastness.

Kim Pinckley:

The infinite possibility.

Kim Pinckley:

The clean slate.

Kim Pinckley:

And . The vastness like the untethered.

Kim Pinckley:

Like, which way will it go?

Kim Pinckley:

Which way will I float off into, and for how long and for how far will I

Kim Pinckley:

just keep going and going and going out into space and to consciously and

Kim Pinckley:

willingly go into that place is a thing.

Kim Pinckley:

And I heard so many, I heard you just speak to all of the qualities of either,

Kim Pinckley:

I mean, I can tell you I heard listening and I heard space and I heard freedom

Kim Pinckley:

and I heard grief and I heard, I heard my version of your connection to spirit.

Kim Pinckley:

I heard solitude.

Kim Pinckley:

I heard, you know, I think that might cover like most of the.

Kim Pinckley:

of Ether, and it's a beautiful story and it's a beautiful journey.

Kim Pinckley:

Me sitting here, getting to watch it with you, witness be with you,

Kim Pinckley:

and to some degree, , even if it's just, , in witness and, hmm.

Kim Pinckley:

Again, I just, I really, really honor your willingness to go there and that

Kim Pinckley:

for me, , talking about this with you, with this subject with you, , that I, I

Kim Pinckley:

would hope that there's an inspiration that comes from this piece for all of us.

Kim Pinckley:

To just take a little bit of a deep dive into outer space, , , and

Kim Pinckley:

just be there and see where it goes, and see what happens.

Kim Pinckley:

And being able to have, This is another one faith, you know?

Kim Pinckley:

Mm-hmm.

Kim Pinckley:

, just tuning to your, to your source, to your relationship

Kim Pinckley:

with your creator in the floating emptiness that has such possibility.

Amanda Lux:

Yeah.

Amanda Lux:

Oh my gosh, Kim, you totally like sparked something when you were just

Amanda Lux:

speaking to that, but I suddenly had this thought that like, the

Amanda Lux:

positive and negative pole.

Amanda Lux:

, that they're all inclusive.

Amanda Lux:

That we can't really experience one without the other.

Amanda Lux:

That the entirety of our experience is meant to contain them all.

Amanda Lux:

Right?

Amanda Lux:

And we have this aversion.

Amanda Lux:

We as in sort of culturally there is an idea that it's, we don't wanna

Amanda Lux:

go to the negative poles of things.

Amanda Lux:

You know, We don't wanna be in grief or we don't wanna be in.

Amanda Lux:

And yet I thought about this and how for the negative and positive

Amanda Lux:

pull of the earth . So the ether is the fifth element, right?

Amanda Lux:

The fifth chakra, the throat, and that's the beginning of spirit coming into form.

Amanda Lux:

And it moves down through each of these elements into denser and

Amanda Lux:

denser qualities or frequencies until it reaches the earth plane.

Amanda Lux:

And that's our root chakra and the.

Amanda Lux:

The positive and negative is fear and courage and oh my goodness, you can't

Amanda Lux:

have courage without fear because courage is not the absence of fear, right?

Amanda Lux:

It's about, you know, facing our fears.

Amanda Lux:

It's being afraid and doing something.

Amanda Lux:

and that feeling of oneness and connection with all things is not

Amanda Lux:

about not grieving or not having grief.

Amanda Lux:

It's about moving through grief.

Amanda Lux:

It's incorporating grief and the, and the longing.

Amanda Lux:

Mm-hmm.

Amanda Lux:

It's, it's, it's all of that.

Amanda Lux:

Right?

Amanda Lux:

So that, I don't know.

Amanda Lux:

I just had this, uh, this great feeling that, that full body

Amanda Lux:

epiphenal feeling of just how.

Amanda Lux:

in those moments when we don't resist the negative pull of something and

Amanda Lux:

we really just welcome it how we get to have this ecstatic, wonderful,

Amanda Lux:

joyful experience of grief.

Amanda Lux:

Even like I loved my grieving.

Amanda Lux:

Mm-hmm.

Amanda Lux:

, right?

Amanda Lux:

These months of grieving or these weeks of grieving, you know, I mean

Amanda Lux:

literally the platform just poof, disappeared yesterday officially.

Amanda Lux:

I came to a close a few weeks ago.

Amanda Lux:

It was really just literally yesterday that it disappeared.

Amanda Lux:

That the, if you go to that website now, there's just nothing.

Amanda Lux:

It'll say there's nothing here.

Amanda Lux:

It's in the ether.

Amanda Lux:

But like sitting with that and really going into that feeling

Amanda Lux:

of the, ugh, this is so sad.

Amanda Lux:

Or to the, to the non-existence of a.

Amanda Lux:

and welcoming that, grieving and welcoming the emptiness or welcoming the fear.

Amanda Lux:

If we can welcome the fear with trust or with faith or with.

Amanda Lux:

Maybe some neutrality.

Kim Pinckley:

Can I please?

Kim Pinckley:

So I just love this.

Kim Pinckley:

Like, you, you can never make it up, right?

Kim Pinckley:

This, this evolutionary process of energy.

Kim Pinckley:

We, we've spoken about it a few times about how the energy becomes

Kim Pinckley:

more and more dense as you come down from spirit to matter.

Kim Pinckley:

And then we spoke a little bit about how once you hit the.

Kim Pinckley:

Yes, there's that idea that the energy then transforms and comes

Kim Pinckley:

back into the ether element, right?

Kim Pinckley:

It's, it's transmuted or however you wanna like be with that idea.

Kim Pinckley:

And I hear that if we speak to the positive, like another way to look

Kim Pinckley:

at the positive and negative polls of Ether with there being this idea

Kim Pinckley:

that at one poll it is invocation.

Kim Pinckley:

Inspiration inception, and at the other poll it's integration.

Kim Pinckley:

And I just heard you come through this whole piece and just talking

Kim Pinckley:

about how to just be accepting of the quote unquote negative, Right?

Kim Pinckley:

How to be with the grief, and what that comes to for me is you've integr.

Kim Pinckley:

this piece in your life.

Kim Pinckley:

And you know, this whole idea of being able to go to the website now.

Kim Pinckley:

And see this piece and make relationship to that and go on with your day.

Kim Pinckley:

Yeah.

Kim Pinckley:

You know, not like in a way of dismissiveness or I'm not gonna deal

Kim Pinckley:

with that right now, but of inclusion.

Kim Pinckley:

Right.

Kim Pinckley:

And that is integration.

Kim Pinckley:

And integration again, is something that I think we fight in this world

Kim Pinckley:

because it it, it absolutely involves us being able to be with both poles.

Amanda Lux:

I think one of my favorite tools within Polarity is to really

Amanda Lux:

be able to see that continuum.

Amanda Lux:

Mm-hmm.

Amanda Lux:

and witness that continuum from a place of neutrality.

Amanda Lux:

Witnessing myself in the negative poll and the grieving there and

Amanda Lux:

the hole in my heart and the empty webpage that comes up when I type in

Amanda Lux:

my, you know, it makes me wanna cry.

Amanda Lux:

Right.

Amanda Lux:

But I can be with that simultaneously on the same continuum as the joy

Amanda Lux:

and excitement and freedom and who knows what's next and the space.

Amanda Lux:

I have to get up and do something else , right?

Amanda Lux:

Instead of get on my computer, which I was really craving, ? I just was

Amanda Lux:

so busy, ? And at the same time, I'm missing that, I'm longing for that,

Amanda Lux:

but I'm also so joyful about it.

Amanda Lux:

So yeah, that continuum, the simultaneous experience of both

Amanda Lux:

ends, it's a really ecstatic thing.

Amanda Lux:

It really is.

Amanda Lux:

It's like when you're, when you start laughing really hard and suddenly you

Amanda Lux:

start crying and sobbing and then you start laughing really hard cuz you're

Amanda Lux:

crying and sobbing and then you cry some more and it's like . Do you know

Amanda Lux:

that thing, that hysterical place?

Amanda Lux:

Maybe that's just me.

Amanda Lux:

. Kim Pinckley: I love it.

Amanda Lux:

No, I know what you

Amanda Lux:

mean.

Amanda Lux:

But like, can we do that, you know, in a conscious way, be with the

Amanda Lux:

cry, be with the laugh, be with the forgetting what you were crying or

Amanda Lux:

laughing about, be, be with all of those aspects in a sort of simultaneous.

Amanda Lux:

I think the more what we practice, then the more simultaneous it becomes.

Amanda Lux:

That's how it's been for me.

Amanda Lux:

And now I just love that I can hold space for myself to, to have those processes.

Amanda Lux:

And it doesn't have to define.

Amanda Lux:

. You know, I can say, Oh, I'm grieving, but that doesn't mean that's all I am.

Amanda Lux:

I'm just having an experience of grieving, simultaneous to loving my

Amanda Lux:

life, you know, and loving myself and loving the space and the possibility.

Amanda Lux:

So Maybe for the listeners out there wherever you are in your

Amanda Lux:

journey on your healer's journey, , I invite you to try that on in your

Amanda Lux:

own way, whatever that is for you.

Amanda Lux:

And maybe you already.

Amanda Lux:

and you have your own wisdom around it.

Kim Pinckley:

That piece about being with the fear or the uncomfort of going

Kim Pinckley:

into that space, in the deeper way?

Kim Pinckley:

You know, it's, it is, It's an evolutionary process.

Kim Pinckley:

It's something that I've certainly met in different ways before, and a

Kim Pinckley:

lot of times, especially with grief, it's not something that you ask for.

Kim Pinckley:

Like it comes and you have to deal.

Kim Pinckley:

Right.

Kim Pinckley:

You don't have a choice sometimes, you know when you lose people in your life.

Kim Pinckley:

Right.

Kim Pinckley:

And so there's been times where I've had to meet it like that.

Kim Pinckley:

And there's some things, like I said, just so for me, so powerful about

Kim Pinckley:

you talking about going into this space when you didn't have to mm-hmm.

Kim Pinckley:

like you chose to, you chose to do this thing for yourself.

Kim Pinckley:

And that is inspiring to me, and I'm really hearing that

Kim Pinckley:

and listening to it and tuning.

Kim Pinckley:

And grateful for your share cuz I'm tuning into that energy of it and

Kim Pinckley:

That's what I can speak to right now , I just really have such an honoring

Kim Pinckley:

for you to show up to that by choice.

Kim Pinckley:

And it's a big deal.

Kim Pinckley:

Hm.

Kim Pinckley:

And I also hear this piece too, that I think about your grief that

Kim Pinckley:

you spoke to around your process.

Kim Pinckley:

And under my understanding of polarity, my understanding of the

Kim Pinckley:

universal truths is the amount of energy that is in that grief.

Kim Pinckley:

It is impossible that there isn't the same amount of energy in the positive.

Kim Pinckley:

Like that's what we're talking about, this continuing this, this positive and

Kim Pinckley:

negative, and the inclusion of the all.

Kim Pinckley:

And this idea of like how do you be with that?

Kim Pinckley:

How do you sign up for that?

Kim Pinckley:

Right?

Kim Pinckley:

How do you sign up for being in love with your grief?

Kim Pinckley:

And when I hear that, I think about how much love you had for the thing that

Kim Pinckley:

you lost or that you chose to let go of or whatever the context was, right?

Kim Pinckley:

And that they are absolutely equal.

Kim Pinckley:

and you can't escape that.

Kim Pinckley:

And if you couldn't have one, you couldn't have the other.

Kim Pinckley:

It's like that age ageless saying, Right.

Kim Pinckley:

And.

Kim Pinckley:

For some reason it feels like harder to be with this than like, Oh, if you don't have

Kim Pinckley:

night, then you don't have day . Right?

Kim Pinckley:

This is a little bit more intense.

Kim Pinckley:

And so I just, again, for me, with you right now in this space, it's

Kim Pinckley:

an honoring and, , I wanna just tell you that I'm inspired and thank you

Kim Pinckley:

for bringing me here and sharing your story and allowing me to speak

Kim Pinckley:

and articulate and move through my process even just a little bit more.

Kim Pinckley:

Mm.

Amanda Lux:

Thank you.

Amanda Lux:

Mm.

Amanda Lux:

Thank you so much Kim.

Amanda Lux:

That like really, really touches me so deeply.

Amanda Lux:

And I've also just, you know, to say like I have totally gathered inspiration from

Amanda Lux:

observing you and your walk with Ether and space and just our conversations

Amanda Lux:

or my observations of your life and how you do that and how you speak.

Amanda Lux:

and it was definitely your voice in my ear when I was like, Oh, I wanna do this.

Amanda Lux:

It's time . First of all, I could hear the podcast speaking, but

Amanda Lux:

it was like Kim in there too.

Amanda Lux:

Like, Oh, Ether, . How do we honor that space?

Amanda Lux:

How do we do the stillness?

Amanda Lux:

How do we do the non-doing?

Amanda Lux:

How do we do that and how do we.

Amanda Lux:

better.

Amanda Lux:

You know, how do we do that as a practice, with commitment to it?

Amanda Lux:

And for me, I, I think anybody that knows me, I'm a.

Amanda Lux:

Doer, like, whoa.

Amanda Lux:

Both of us are actually . We're both very like fire constitution,

Amanda Lux:

air fire going for it.

Amanda Lux:

And somehow you're anchoring that ether finding balance.

Amanda Lux:

And it's just totally magnificent how you're doing life and how you're doing

Amanda Lux:

the non-doing in between and within.

Amanda Lux:

Right?

Amanda Lux:

And we kind of get to that place too.

Amanda Lux:

If we practice, I think we can practice that even while we're

Amanda Lux:

running from thing to thing.

Amanda Lux:

We're holding that space for ourselves, right?

Amanda Lux:

Even when we're in the moment of deep grief, we're experiencing ecstatic joy.

Amanda Lux:

, ? That's the practice is how can we hold it all and how do we be with nothing?

Amanda Lux:

Aho,

Amanda Lux:

You know, just that.

Amanda Lux:

That's just that

Amanda Lux:

Yeah.

Amanda Lux:

Thank you.

Amanda Lux:

.

Amanda Lux:

participating in this episode of a Lone Traveler's Guide to the Divine.

Amanda Lux:

May this deepen your own inquiry and exploration of your energy and your

Amanda Lux:

soul's path, and I am so, so grateful to be in sacred community with you.

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About the Podcast

A Lone Traveler's Guide to the Divine
For explorers of DreamWork and Energy Medicine
Welcome dreamers, healers, empaths, seekers, and anyone interested in exploring what it means to be a soul on your journey, in these times.

This podcast is a place to come home to in the sanctuary of the great mystery, where the subtler things in life are seen and listened to, where healing is possible through the sharing of poetry, dreams, teachings, interviews and inspiration. This is a place to feel held in sacred community.

Because it can be lonely AF traversing the multiverse, evolving, awakening, harnessing the potency of our dreams, exploring the tools and techniques of energy medicine.

And it takes tremendous courage to tune-in stead of tune-out, to be a light bearer who faces the shadow through conscious exploration, daring to activate our highest potential.

But it is the kind of work that is worth doing. And it is so much more fun, interesting, profound and entertaining when we do it together!

Hosted by Amanda Lux; artist, mother, author, registered polarity educator and founder of the Elevation Hive School and Community for Energy Medicine and DreamWork.

Tune in every new and full moon for meditations, energy balancing and embodiment practices based in Polarity Therapy, dream sharing and fascinating conversations about what it means to live awake in this dream called life.

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Amanda Lux

I am an artist, author, mother, educator and creator of the Elevation Hive School of Energy Medicine and DreamWork. My greatest desire is to be in conscious community with like-minded individuals who are dedicated to personal growth and evolving themselves in service of the collective.

I also love quality coffee, Ashtanga yoga, traveling the cosmos and introverting with my small but mighty dog, Miss Riley Rose.

If you enjoy this podcast you should head over to elevationhive.com and check out our private community membership where we have a dream sharing forum and free classes galore. I read and personally respond to every dream shared because, well, that's probably my biggest passion!